I’m sure you have come across this question before. After all, we all use the saying ‘I don’t know who needs to hear this, but…”. But when it comes down to it, what is the one piece of advice you think no one wants to hear but everyone should? Because, while I could think of hundreds of things I think others should know, most are somewhat niche and kind of insignificant.
So, I decided to write about it and take the time to sit down to think about this question. Here is the advice I came up with:
Nobody actually cares what you do in life.
Now, this may seem somewhat harsh and I’d say it doesn’t apply to those closest to you (at least not always). But, in the grand scheme of things, people only care about themselves. Dale Carnegie based his whole book How To Win Friends And Influence People on this idea – to influence others, you have to put their interests first and make them feel important. It’s actually also one of the first things you learn when you start writing – don’t write for yourself, write for your audience. Because who really cares about your opinion, especially in the beginning.
I think this phrase really isn’t something anyone wants to hear. Because every single one of us wants to be something. It’s why people strive for money, fame or power. Yet, since we all want that, no one really cares when someone else achieves it.
I think while the idea of no one caring can be upsetting, it should be freeing, more than anything. How many things in life have you NOT done out of fear of being judged? For me, many. And it’s something I struggle with every single day – e.g. I think the person sitting across from me in the tube is judging me when they are probably just worrying about the presentation they have to give at work that day. Their life and goals take priority over judging yours. So – do what you want. No one cares, especially not in the long run. And since we all don’t want to be forgotten, do the things that are unforgettable (in a positive way though, please).
What’s your piece of advice no one wants to hear?