Happy Valentine’s Day! I hope you had a lovely day, whether you are celebrating or not ♡
Growing up, my family never really celebrated Valentine’s Day. My parents used to say it’s silly to have one certain day reserved for showing your loved ones that you love them. When I entered my teen years, I thought that was a very miserable way of viewing a day meant to be filled with love. Back then, it was all about who got a rose at school and who didn’t. It very much defined one’s worth whether you were single or not on Valentine’s Day.
I think this stuck with me for quite a while. I used to not like Valentine’s regardless of whether I was in a relationship or not as it was just so much pressure. If in a relationship, it was supposed to be that perfect day and it somehow never was. If single, I’d have my singleness slapped in my face at every corner.
Have you ever felt this way?
More recently, I have changed the way I look at relationships and what defines me. It is not a partner that defines me but myself – this was something I always knew but never really truly internalised. I need to be okay being by myself first, before being able to truly open up to someone else. As many have said before me, finding your other half won’t make you whole. Only you yourself can do that.
To get back to the topic at hand, nowadays I quite like Valentine’s Day. Yes, it is silly that we need a day to remind us to love each other but I just don’t think it’s that serious. It’s a day where I reach out to my grandparents and tell them I love them. It’s a day where I give cute chocolates to my closest friends. It’s a day where I tell the barista that she looks amazing. And yes, we should do this all the time (and no, I don’t just do it on Valentine’s). But it’s still a cute reminder that love is all around us and that we should celebrate it. It doesn’t matter what love we are celebrating. Self-love, family love, love between partners, love between friends or just love for the world around us. Celebrate it, wear something cute that is bright pink, draw hearts on your face (as I did on Instagram) and buy yourself some damn flowers. Celebrate your worth regardless of your relationship status. Celebrate love for the simple thing it is.
If you feel lonely today, my social media accounts are always open for a chat or just a silly exchange of memes 🙂